Posted by politicalpartypooper on December 23, 2008


Melissa Etheridge had a lot to say about Rick Warren in a recent article she posted for Huff Post. She had some very nice things to say about Pastor Warren:

“He explained in very thoughtful words that as a Christian he believed in equal rights for everyone. He believed every loving relationship should have equal protection. He struggled with proposition 8 because he didn’t want to see marriage redefined as anything other than between a man and a woman. He said he regretted his choice of words in his video message to his congregation about proposition 8 when he mentioned pedophiles and those who commit incest. He said that in no way, is that how he thought about gays. He invited me to his church, I invited him to my home to meet my wife and kids.”

Near the end of her article, she sounded a call, not just to the LGBT community, but to all people:

“Sure, there are plenty of hateful people who will always hold on to their bigotry like a child to a blanket. But there are also good people out there, Christian and otherwise that are beginning to listen. They don’t hate us, they fear change.”

As glad as I am that Melissa Etheridge now knows that Rick Warren does not hate gays, I fear she came out of her meeting with him a bit more naive than she entered it.  It’s true, Rick Warren does not hate gays.  It may be true, in fact, that he hates no one.  But in seeing this and acknowledging it about Rick Warren and many other Christians, Jews, or Muslims, the one thing that is missed, the one thing to beware of, is that Christians, Jews, and Muslims will never acquiesce willingly on the question of gay marriage.  If “Marriage” is what it must be called, the LGBT community will not win over the churches.  It’s an impossibility.

I know I said, the other day, that extremism will never convince anyone, and yet here I am, sounding sort of extreme.  Please forgive, it’s not my intention to be extreme.  It is my intention to share information that I know of first hand.

No, I’m not gay.  But, I was an evangelical Christian for a loooong time.  I was what one might have called a part-time scholar.  I studied the bible, I knew it well, and I knew the tenets that  evangelical Christianity holds.  I still know them.

Melissa, other friends, embrace peace, yes.  But keep your eyes open, and never forget this one fact.  Any practicing evangelical Christian looks at your lifestyle as something unacceptable, as something that needs to be changed.  They view it as forgivable, but unacceptable.  They view you as someone either to pity, or change.  In their best moments, they’ll accept you as you are, and silently pray you could be different.  “Love the sinner, hate the sin”.

They can and will love you.  Many do.  Many are well-meaning, desiring only to give you room to consider their beliefs, and accept them for your own if you are willing.

No, they don’t hate you.  But it’s not change they fear.  In their minds, regardless of what the secular law writes about marriage, God lays down their law, and it’s the only law they will accept.  No change is possible.  You may win the right to “marry”, but they won’t consider your marriage as equal.  They can’t.  And it’s not hate that causes this,  it’s their faith, and they will not change it.  You are up against an immovable object.  Not only is it impossible, it’s impossible for a Christian to even  imagine.

If faith was skin, convincing them to accept gay “marriage” would be like asking them to change the color of their skin.  It can’t be done.  Can you understand this, can you accept this without hating them?  Just as you cannot change what you feel inside, and they have found reasons to love you anyway, can you do the same when in the end, you cannot move their basic faith an inch?

I don’t think Rick Warren wants to strip you of rights, or oppress you in any way.  But his belief system makes it impossible for him to compromise on the issue of “marriage” .  Civil Unions with all the rights of married couples, he can tolerate.  But marriage?


That’s not hate.  That’s just the way it is.


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